22-year-old sparks family feud after baking a "passive aggressive" cement gray gender reveal cake: 'Just make it neutral'

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Remy Millisky • Writer and Editor
May 13, 2025 3:00 PM EDT

This dude shocked an entire party of people after his intriguing choice of gender reveal cake color! 

When you attend a gender reveal party, you usually know how things are going to go down. Oftentimes, family members will try to predict if the baby will be a boy or a girl, and sometimes they even dress up in pink or blue clothing to show their support. There's usually good food, decorations, games, and of course, the gender reveal cake. There are plenty of cute ways to do a gender reveal, but cutting into a cake to reveal blue or pink icing remains one of the most popular ways to do it. 

This 22-year-old has totally divided the internet after revealing how he baked his sister's gender reveal cake. Instead of going for a gender-neutral color like yellow, green, or purple, or even just swirling together some blue and pink icing, this dude chose to go with… cement gray. I think it came off as unpleasant to the party guests, and this person's sister was not happy with the "passive-aggressive" move. Commenters totally disagree on whether or not this dude was just clueless, correct, or in the wrong, but you can check out all the drama below and decide for yourself. 

Next, read about the employee who "dropped a $2650 ice sculpture… minutes before its unveiling," along with other stories from employees who messed up big time. 

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  • 01

    "AITA for making my sister's gender reveal cake grey because she wouldn't tell me the gender?"

    I (22M) bake as a hobby, and I'm actually pretty good at it-like I get paid under the table for weddings and baby showers kind of good. My sister is pregnant and wanted me to make the cake for her gender reveal. Cool, no problem. I asked her to send me the info so I could prep the inside-classic pink or blue filling. She says, "Oh no, I want to be surprised too. Just make it neutral for the reveal and we'll all find out together."
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  • 02
    I was like... huh? So you want a gender reveal cake with no gender revealed...? She says she'll have someone email the info to me later. That someone never did. Deadline comes, and I still have no gender. So I make the cake. It's grey inside. Grey outside. Just full on cement vibes. I even added little fondant clouds for effect. It still tasted great, but visually? Grim as h_I.
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  • 03
    The reveal day comes, they cut into it, and my sister looks ped. Her husband is confused. People start murmuring. Then she pulls me aside like, "Why would you make it grey? That's so passive-aggressive." calmly reminded her that no one told me the gender. I literally had no data to work with. I told her I wasn't about to guess or go full improv on someone's baby cake.
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  • 04

    Hmm, perhaps this dude should've picked something a little less grim for a baby cake

    Now my mom says I embarrassed her in front of the family and that I "should've tried harder." Tried harder to do what, summon the gender through vibes? So... AITA for making the most neutral reveal cake in history?
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  • 05
    Edit: I actually did follow up- asked her a couple days before the reveal if the info had been sent, and she just said something like "yeah, someone's taking care of it." I figured it was handled. I didn't want to pester her since she seemed chill about it at the time.
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  • 06
    Independent-Cat6... I'm confused. Did you not take the opportunity to message as the date was coming closer to tell your sister: "Hey, I haven't gotten the info on the gender. A you check on this?"
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    MilktheAlgorithm OP I actually did follow up-asked her a couple days before the reveal if the info had been sent, and she just said something like "yeah, someone's taking care of it." I figured it was handled. I didn't want to pester her since she seemed chill about it at the time. If she really wanted the gender in the cake, she could've double-checked too. I was relying on the system she set up, and it just didn't come through.
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  • 08

    The baker forgot that yellow icing and yellow cake are things that exist

    Ok_Copy_8869 Why couldn't you have made it yellow and baby themed or something? It seems pretty vindictive to make the cake a "grim cement vibes" for an important event where you'd be serving many more people besides your air headed sister. I understand you were frustrated but that's all anyone is
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  • 09
    going to remember from that event now which was kinda YTA.
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  • 11

    This person sided with the baker, in theory, and chided others for saying what they would've done instead

    Pract... Info: were you paid for your time and ingredients? ETA: Op was not paid for time OR ingredients. Also they followed up to ask about the gender a few days before and was brushed off. NTA in my opinion.
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  • 12
    Sis was pretty demanding and then all the other stuff... yeah gray was a bit harsh. - But then be respectful of your family and their donated expertise. ETA #2: This thread is not titled "Would I do the same thing as the OP in a similar situation?" It is " Am I the ah le?"
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  • 13
    You could equally go with everyone sks here and it would be a valid judgment. But if OP is spending his money on ingredients and Sis can't send a simple text message with the details needed to make the free cake, then I'm not really sure what to say... would I have made it gray? No. But do I fault that OP did? Not really.
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